Distance makes the small things matter more: the good-morning text, the shared playlist, the countdown to the next visit. These questions give your calls something better than "so, what did you do today?"
For your daily call
- What was the best moment of your day?
- What did you have for lunch, and was it good?
- What's something that annoyed you today?
- What are you looking forward to tomorrow?
- What's one thing you wish I'd seen today?
- What song have you been listening to?
- What's the weather like, and what are you wearing?
- Did anything make you think of me today?
- What's something you learned today?
- What would we be doing right now if I were there?
Missing each other
- What do you miss most about being together?
- What's your favourite memory from my last visit?
- When do you miss me the most?
- What helps you feel close to me when we're apart?
- What's something small I can do that makes the distance easier?
- What's the first thing you want to do when we see each other?
- How do you feel after we hang up?
- What's a ritual you'd like us to start?
- What's the hardest part of long distance for you?
- What's one thing that's better because of the distance?
Planning
- When's our next visit, and what should we do?
- Which city should we meet in next?
- What's the plan for closing the distance?
- Where would you like us to live together?
- What's a trip we can plan right now?
- How often should we try to visit?
- What's our budget for visits this year?
- Which holidays will we spend together?
- What's a date we can do over video call this week?
- What does the end of long distance look like to you?
Fun over video
- Would you rather have a movie night or a game night on video?
- What should we cook "together" this weekend?
- Which series should we start at the same time?
- If you could teleport here for one hour, what would we do?
- What's a song we should both learn?
- What's the strangest thing in your room right now?
- Show me something you bought recently.
- What would our dream holiday together look like?
- What's a game we can play over text?
- What's something you'd like to send me in the post?
Deeper
- What makes you trust me when we're apart?
- What worries you about the distance?
- How do you like to be reassured?
- What's something you've never told me over the phone?
- How has this relationship changed you?
- What do you need from me when you're having a bad week?
- How do you want us to handle jealousy?
- What's a promise you'd like us to make while we're apart?
- What do you think we're learning from this?
- What will you be most excited about when we finally live together?
Rituals that help
- The same question every day. In Pairbond, you both answer the question of the day and see each other's answer, wherever you are.
- A countdown to the next visit. Add it under Moments so you both see the days drop.
- A thumb kiss. Hold the screen together and feel where your partner's thumb is.
- A days-together widget on both lock screens.